How can we overcome the habits of using patterns of distorted thoughts? Currently there are seminars, radial programs and books that help people to do so. You possibly have access to some books that will help you in this respect. Perhaps you can attend to some conferences or university classes. That is a way to you can help yourself.

Another way is to participate in an emotional supportive group. We can participate in a group of kindred people in a session type that resembles group therapy, although less intense than this. We will be able to ventilate personal matters and the group will be helping each member to be objective with his emotional life. We can organize it in such a way that different concepts of practical psychology are shared and then to treat aspects related with our emotional life. The results will be very effective. It is possible to organize such a group from your friends and family circle to frequently meet and analyze practical concepts of the human behavior. They can share their experiences and analyze each other to notice whether they are using some kind of emotional erroneous thoughts which eventually will lead them to negative consequences.

Another alternative is the group therapy, but in this you’ll have to feel fully confident that the group will maintain in absolute privacy all that they discuss there. It is required in this case that a sensation of accept and empathy above all among the different members exist.

The most direct alternative is the therapy or the personal counseling. In this case you should also be very careful when selecting the person that will help you, because if it is not present the element of privacy, if you don't feel sure or confident with the person that treats you, it won't be effective. Perhaps the best way of selecting an advisor, either a psychiatrist or a psychologist, will be asking people that have already undergone a counseling process and could recommend you somebody to help you with your emotional problems. All these are options that you have.