There is a pattern of distorted thinking and It is the idea that we can classify people between bad and good, that is to say, to put labels to the acts of the other ones. In fact, in this world it doesn't exist neither the absolute good nor the absolute bad. It is a product of the perception, the education and each human being's training. There are things that other people do that we never wouldn’t.

It is certain that there are behaviours that the society considers inappropriate, however, this doesn't imply that this people are bad. To accuse or to put labels on others doesn't solve anything and in many cases it only does more damage than well. Don't forget that from their own point of view, each human being has reasons to base his behaviour and although this doesn't imply that we will justify all negative or antisocial behaviour, neither it means that the person is bad and deserve our scorn.

For example, the clearly antisocial behaviours should be controlled because they can affect others. However there are behaviours that we usually classify as bad and we believe that the person is bad or has behaved in an incorrect way. The behaviour that we can call bad or mistaken, is frequently due to the ignorance, to emotional problems or circumstances that only the person knows. Many times when we classify a person of bad or mistaken, we don't know him neither we have all the elements to judge them. We should be about to help those who need us and to offer orientation. Mainly we need to develop empathy and stop judging in negative tone other people.

The same conclusion should be applied our person. If somebody bothers what we make, we don't have to create ourselves annoyance or anxiety in this respect. None of us should govern their life for the capricious attitude of the others. If somebody asks us or claims us, we should always be open to the serious opinions and to honestly compare our ideas with other people’s. But to be buried in discussions and mutual accusations, it won't be good for us and will steal our energy causing us anxiety and depression. Let us don't fall in the absurd game of always looking for who is to blame, because in general it is a loss of time and it causes us a lot of emotional waste.